A friend and I spent the day in Langley visiting an old girlfriend from high school and her new baby. She and her husband were just in town for the Olympics, he's an RCMP in Alberta. On our commute back downtown, after gabbing all day, I found myself expressing some sorrow for her circumstances. Although she has a great husband and an amazing little boy, while her husband is busy working 14 hour days, she is basically on her own with the baby. It must be very difficult for her at times.
That's when I truly realized how lucky I am. I may not have a husband to support me, but I have a mother, sister, niece, grandmother, cousin, aunts, and many friends, who are supporting me in ways I could never ask. My mom is giving the baby and I her house to live in, and her car to drive! My sister picked up and moved to Powell River, because that's where the baby and I will be and she wanted to be close to us.
It's interesting that I am the single mother, yet am the one with many bodies to lean on.
I don't know what I would do without my army of women. Especially, when it comes to babies. I believe that 1 experienced woman is the equivalent to a dozen silly men. Even the section I just read in my pregnancy and childbirth book was about the importance of having a woman in the birthing room with you. "Research shows that if a woman has another woman with her during labor and birth she has less need for pain relieving drugs, and her labor is shorter. There are fewer operative deliveries and episiotomies. Babies are in better condition at birth and, and mothers are much more likely to look back on the birth as a positive experience."
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I love reading your writing girl. So awesome and candid. So, what exactly is an episiotomy then? xo
ReplyDeleteepisiotomy |iˌpēzēˈätəmē|
ReplyDeletenoun ( pl. -mies)
a surgical cut made at the opening of the vagina during childbirth, to aid a difficult delivery and prevent rupture of tissues.
Ouchy momma!
Episiotomy what??? Is exactly right!!! As horrible as it sounds Sister, the truth is if your dr. does an episotomy on you...you won't have a clue! I promise! You will not know....unless the dr tells you!
ReplyDeleteAnd while we're on the topic! Lets talk pain meds....with Majic....I swore off pain meds....wanted to do it au naturelle! IDIOT!
After 18 hours of brutal stubborness and extremely unnatural pain...I succumbed to an epidural! BEST DECISION I HAVE EVER MADE IN MY ENTIRE LIFE! The epidural is gods gift to women in labor! Please don't torture yourself in there ....it so savage! We do live in a time where birth can be semi painless....and I highly reccommend not being a bloody hero!